1 Peter 5:10 And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.
I believe God starts to unfold His purpose for your life when you begin to walk with Him. God created marriage and so to be successful in it, we have to do it His way( just the way He instructed it to be).
Ques: Why did you choose that man?
Answer: Because God has a plan for the two of you.
“Everything started so well but it looks like we are incompatible”.
Having a blissful marriage starts with Christ in the center of your marriage. I know that sounds bizarre but it takes only you to start a relationship with Christ.
A friend and myself were talking about the rate at which marriages are failing nowadays and I mentioned the fact that no matter how you think you made a mistake about choosing a life partner, Romans 8:28 says,
“ 28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose.”.
My point was that, It will work together for good in the end. I also mentioned the fact that scripture says, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder”(Mark 10:9).
She made a remarkable point- “when a marriage gets broken, we should ask ourselves if it was God who joined it together in the first place”- Food for thought.
When God joins a man and a woman together, He does it for a reason, so until you find your purpose, life will be chaotic. Imagine if one of your eyes was tucked in your armpit. First off, it’s not in it’s rightful place. Putting your hand down will squash the eye and make it uncomfortable. Holding your arm up to protect the eye will also be unbearable because that is not how human beings are wired.
When you miss God’s purpose for your life, you become like the eye in the armpit.
Marriage has become so difficult because God is not in the picture and women especially, keep loosing their identities.
When God is not present, who takes care of the emotions and the dispositions?
He’s the only one who can supply you the love you need to be able to overcome the problems you go through. You can only know who you are when you enter into a deeper relationship with Christ. How do you handle a husband if you don’t have full knowledge about yourself?
When I got married, I was so lousy- I’m still work in progress- every time we quarreled, I would run to my closet to ask God to help me. Our squabbles became recurrent and I had to always run back to God. One day, in my closet, I sobbingly asked God, “ why are you so jealous of me?” . It looked as if He enjoyed my coming to Him for Help all the time. God’s answer was, “ Jasmin, come and love me and I will teach you to love yourself and that man!”. Note that He said , “I will teach you to love yourself”.
Bear in mind that your destiny is not tied to a man. You need to work on yourself to be able to attain full respect and admiration from your man.
Have you seen the golf ball, it has dimples all around it and that is what gives it the ability to travel far.
When you meet a man, he usually tells you only the positive attributes about himself. You later find out who he truly is and you begin to wonder. We all have flaws, just like the golf ball, and the same imperfections makes us unique and usually attracts you to your other half. That is what the Bible calls, “ naked and unashamed”. ( Genesis 2:24-25
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.)
Naked, doesn’t mean in your birthday suit, but, discovering the imperfections of your partner and still loving him unconditionally.
Your husband didn’t lie about himself, he actually believes he is what he told you. The thing is, nobody knows him or herself well enough to know how they would react in a given situation. So when you begin to discover the other side of him, that is the same time he also finds that about himself, and vice versa.
God’s gift to us is always so perfect that it competes with our love for Him.
Begin to acknowledge Him in your relationship and that is more like thanking God for your spouse and admitting that that you cannot do it
alone. He takes over where you fall short.
2Corinthians 12:9 “And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”
Allow God to teach you lessons through difficult times because He’s in the business of birthing your purpose through your pain.
Jasmin Zubida writes